I had an interesting conversation with a friend recently. I was venting about the fact that I am frustrated in my business. I expressed how I wanted things to be different.
She took a deep breath and said… what you want is a diet. You want a quick fix. Creating a business, working on a business, and growing a business takes work. A lot of work. And sometimes, we don’t get the results we are looking for.
This got me thinking. We want to control G-d so badly. This is why, when we see a diet advertised and it says “lose 20 pounds in 20 days by following our method,” we almost immediately buy in.
Well this can be applied to any area of our lives, WE DON’T HAVE CONTROL. No matter how much we want to believe we do, WE DON’T. This reality hurts. It hurts really badly. When we feel out of control, we feel so uncomfortable.
Intuitive eating has helped me to accept this lack on control. You can eat everything “perfectly” and still not be a size 2. You can try to run your business according to every perfect business trick, and still not have a successful business. The only thing we control is our efforts. And the more we focus on efforts, the more efforts we put in.
The more we focus on results, the more frustration, pain and anxiety we feel. When we do our effort, and let go, we are liberated from the pain we are causing ourselves. This is called acceptance.
What are you not accepting in your life that is causing you so much pain?
I prayed and prayed and cried and prayed and with the help of G-d, I did get into an internship. A very good internship, Lehman College, in the Bronx. In my internship, I did various rotations in different fields of nutrition. I worked in a nursing home, I participated in a research study, I worked at WIC, G-d’s Love We Deliver, an assisted living and an out patient clinic. I traveled all around the five boroughs, and two nights a week I drove to the Bronx to attend classes to complete my Master’s degree in nutrition. This was all so intense, while raising a family and keeping my grades up, but I was fully committed. I finished my internship, passed by RD exam ( while being 9 months pregnant with my second child), and began to work in the field. I could finally sign my name “Gila Glassberg, RD.” It was literally the best feeling in the entire world. My first job was in a nursing home, and I loved it a first, until I realized that this is not why I set out to be a dietitian. I wanted to help people who had struggled with food and body image as I had years ago. This is where I began to vigorously research what type of jobs I could do with my RD. I honestly didn’t find much. Most of the jobs listed were clinical, in a hospital or nursing home. I didn’t think I would ever want to do private practice because I didn’t feel right putting people on weight loss programs, it just reminded me of the anxiety and shame I had felt when I was so calorically restricting myself in high school. This is when I stumbled upon Intuitive Eating. The funny thing is, is that I had never heard about Intuitive Eating during all my years of schooling. I actually went to meet with a women, her name is Perl Abramowitz, and she does parenting classes. I told her how I had such high hopes and dreams for being a dietitian but at this point I just felt unfulfilled at work. She told me about Rena Reiser, an Intuitive Eating Coach. I looked her up online and got in touch with her. She was so willing and eager to discuss and talk to me. I decided to start by reading the book Intuitive Eating. Once I read it, everything clicked.