I had an interesting conversation with a friend recently. I was venting about the fact that I am frustrated in my business. I expressed how I wanted things to be different.
She took a deep breath and said… what you want is a diet. You want a quick fix. Creating a business, working on a business, and growing a business takes work. A lot of work. And sometimes, we don’t get the results we are looking for.
This got me thinking. We want to control G-d so badly. This is why, when we see a diet advertised and it says “lose 20 pounds in 20 days by following our method,” we almost immediately buy in.
Well this can be applied to any area of our lives, WE DON’T HAVE CONTROL. No matter how much we want to believe we do, WE DON’T. This reality hurts. It hurts really badly. When we feel out of control, we feel so uncomfortable.
Intuitive eating has helped me to accept this lack on control. You can eat everything “perfectly” and still not be a size 2. You can try to run your business according to every perfect business trick, and still not have a successful business. The only thing we control is our efforts. And the more we focus on efforts, the more efforts we put in.
The more we focus on results, the more frustration, pain and anxiety we feel. When we do our effort, and let go, we are liberated from the pain we are causing ourselves. This is called acceptance.
What are you not accepting in your life that is causing you so much pain?