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Rochelle Garfield- Raising Eating Disorder Awareness and Encouraging us to Share our Stories
Rochelle is a licensed mental health counselor based in Brooklyn and NYC.
She specializes in eating disorders, depression, anxiety and relationships. Most of her expertise is helping people struggling with anything related to food, exercise and body image.
Eating and food is so prevalent in our communities and at a certain point it’s all anyone would talk about, when Rochelle was growing up.
Her friends always discussed what diets they were on and Rochelle was sick of it. She always knew she wanted to empower women in her career but didn’t know what field to go into. She graduated college without knowing what she wanted to do. Once she got to grad school, she realized that eating disorders and relationships with food are so much deeper than what they seem. She took everything she learned in school and decided to use it to help women face their demons and not have to hide behind food and body image.
Rochelle began to see that her clients struggling from disordered eating would work through problems and make tremendous progress, yet often there was something similar happening with their relationship towards money.
If we don’t understand what’s underneath the behaviors it starts to come out in other areas of life. When you restrict yourself with food and don’t eat as much as your body needs, then eating emotionally and eating too much will probably occur. There are some people that save money and spend the least amount possible while there are others who binge spend money without thinking. Many times one person will participate in both behaviors. Somebody who restricts their food, may turn to money and begin to restrict in that area as well. The therapist’s job is to understand how this happened; we’re never blaming anyone for their behavior.
When a client is restricting and binging with food, we try to give them healthier coping mechanisms.
This takes a long time to integrate, so many times other areas in their life go out of whack. If somebody is spending tons of money on food for no reason or going to fancy restaurants when they can’t afford it, Rochelle will ask them what their relationship is like with money. It’s such a fine line between being fiscally responsible and being restrictive. Everything surrounding money is subjective, so each person has different means of behaving fiscally responsible. Let’s say someone goes out with their friends and offers to pay for the whole meal. What are you hoping for when you spend money on all your friends? This may be that person’s way of wanting to be accepted and loved. It’s hard for them to understand a world like this without spending money on others. We need to explain to the client that your real friends will accept you without paying for their lunch everytime you go out. With food, if someone is constantly binging, when is this happening? Is it because you have a test coming up? Or when your mother is around? Let’s try to make sense of the behavior.
Many people don’t want to have a conversation about finances because it stresses them out.
If you have anxiety around money, the first thing to do is learn about it. Meet with a financial advisor just to see where you stand with money. To parallel this with food, some people will just say I’ll eat this and this and not look at the calories. When something is making you feel anxious, you should educate yourself regarding that topic, but often we shy away from learning. We have to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Learning how to feel that discomfort is very important for your growth.
Rochelle Garfield is a speech/language pathologist, photographer and dyslexia lecturer. When she has free time, she enjoys inline skating. She lives in Houston, Texas with her husband and six awesome kids. She is now jumping into the writing world with her debut novel, OUT OF THE SHADOW. It was so important for me to bring Rochelle on for so many reasons. Firstly, her book was absolutely incredible. In fact I shared it with my friend this weekend and she finished the book in one day. I am so glad to hear that people are openly speaking about eating disorders in the orthodox Jewish world. Speaking about eating disorders does not cause an eating disorder, in fact, it gives space and safety to those who are struggling. Rochelle is open about what inspired her to write this story, losing her aunt to an eating disorder as well as struggling with her relationship around food as well. I myself also love to write and I wanted to hear what it was like to actually get a book published. The process is fascinating as you will hear. Enjoy the show!
Author of Out of the Shadow
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Gila Glassberg is a Master's level registered dietitian and a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. As a teenager, she was faced with constant diet talk, body shaming and obsessive guilt around food. She struggled with disordered eating. This is what propelled her into the field of nutrition. She uses a non-diet, weight-neutral approach called Intuitive Eating. She helps growth oriented women break out of chronic dieting, and regain clarity into what is really important to them.
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