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Shira Fruchter, MSW, lives in Ramat Eshkol Jerusalem and is a therapist specializing in IFS-Internal Family Systems therapy.

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Shira Fruchter, MSW, lives in Ramat Eshkol Jerusalem and is a therapist specializing in IFS-Internal Family Systems therapy.

She is a purist, meaning this is the only type of therapy she practices. Shira has a private practice for adults and couples and is an international trainer and certified IFS therapist with over 15 years of clinical experience.

She is passionate about helping others through the IFS therapy model if they are willing to be helped!

If someone is forced or encouraged to go to therapy but they don’t want to be helped, you can’t help them. Shira knows this from personal experience. Her parents got divorced when she was around 8 or 9 years old. Although her parents did want her to go to therapy, she was a resistant adolescent and refused to go. Therefore, she only works with clients aged 18 and up and she only takes in people who want to do the work.

Growing up Shira always knew she wanted to be a therapist. She is a people person and she really wanted to help others.

A decade into her practice she wanted more of a specific map of how to practice. She was interested in focusing on and practicing with one specific model. She was introduced to IFS and fell in love with it. It changed her life on a personal level, so she thought why can’t other people benefit from it as well?

What is the IFS model? Shira described and briefly went through the different aspects of the IFS model.

The main crux of the model is to find yourself, your soul, and your natural valuable state. We are all born with a certain personality and traits and then life happens, and we adopt certain burdens and beliefs. The IFS model helps you return to that natural vulnerable state. Instead of always protecting ourselves from pain, and running away from acknowledging it, through curiosity and compassion we can see what the pain is trying to protect us from. All parts have a positive intention, we just have to be curious enough to discover what the positive intention is. “We mask ourselves and imprison others”, we hide others when we hide ourselves. It’s a lonely world out there. The IFS model helps us reparent our younger selves. It teaches us that you could feel a lot of pain and still be ok.

Although Shira practices with this specific model and her clients are aware of that, she rarely explains the method to her clients.

For example, if a client comes in and says I am so lazy and I always procrastinate. She automatically thinks, ok this client has a lazy part and a procrastination part, how are the parts trying to help my client? She does not have to teach it to them, instead, she is helping them learn it themselves. How did you really develop a part that’s so lazy? Clients can learn the system that way.

As Shira spoke about IFS, many similarities between IFS and Intuitive Eating came up. She even mentioned that she works with Intuitive Eating coaches a lot.

They both require internal work to acknowledge and get rid of past burdens and beliefs. We have many parts to us, just like a garlic clove has many parts to it and we have to work through each part. Shira says the most difficult aspect of the work is helping a person not criticize the part, which can take a long time. We think being hard on ourselves will work, but it doesn’t serve us any good. Although, our natural response is to judge, whether judging ourselves or others. If we switch our natural response to curiosity instead, about ourselves or others, it will serve us much better.

Another important topic that came up was boundaries.

Especially in today’s day and age with social media, boundaries are important. Shira mentioned the acronym WAIT, W-Why, A-am, I-I, T-Talking, as a great way to remember boundaries before sharing anything.

Shira ended off with a great quote: “Feelings are not dangerous, they’re just visitors”, If we sit with our feelings and acknowledge them, they will go away.

They are here just for a visit and will leave once they receive the attention they need. Shira is passionate about IFS; however, she is aware that it is not the type of therapy that is a good fit for every person and their situation. Shira is committed to helping her clients in the best way possible and will refer them to a different type of therapy if she thinks it will be a better fit for them. Shira is not currently taking new clients, but she runs IFS support and skills groups.

Shira can be reached via WhatsApp at 347-255-3514.

 

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Gila Glassberg is a Master's level registered dietitian and a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. As a teenager, she was faced with constant diet talk, body shaming and obsessive guilt around food. She struggled with disordered eating. This is what propelled her into the field of nutrition. She uses a non-diet, weight-neutral approach called Intuitive Eating. She helps growth oriented women break out of chronic dieting, and regain clarity into what is really important to them.

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