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Your Self Help Roadmap via My Favorite Books
Hi guys! I feel the need to share the books that have been pivotal in my life.
The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
Awareness by Miriam Adahan
This book, coupled with The Five Love Languages, really opened my eyes to different personality types. We all have different triggers. What triggers certain emotions in some, triggers different emotions in others. I finally realized how different we all are, how we all process things differently and naturally have different strengths and weaknesses. Being self aware is so valuable and it is also extremely valuable to help you understand other people’s behaviors. It’s really a gift to yourself and others. This really helps you eliminate shame and guilt in your life.
This led me to all of Brene Brown’s work(Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, Dare to Lead, Braving the Wilderness, The Gift of Imperfection.) Brene Brown is a social worker who studies shame and vulnerability and how the human experience can be one riddled with shame. The antidote is vulnerability. In essence, feeling the fear of other people’s judgments and rejection and sitting with the uncomfortable feeling of no longer “people pleasing” and doing it anyways because you know you can, in every fiber of your being that you need to do this. Not only that, Brene is famous for uniting us all as humans by normalizing most human behavior. We are all so scared and embarrassed someone will know our “flaws,” but we all have flaws. In this sense, awareness paired with Brene Brown’s books is extremely liberating to read and understand. For example – I may be extremely organized and anxious, while my husband is relaxed yet disorganized – but this is neither good nor bad, it just is.
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
At this point, my mind has really been open and I am expanding my mindset. In some ways (not all), I have gotten a taste of the abundance mindset. I am not yet fully immersed in the culture but I am at least open to hearing of it. I have to admit though, I am still pretty stuck in scarcity. Do not despair if you are as well, the more you read these books and take brave, inspired action, the outcome will always motivate you to continue. I will also have to add in here that every person and situation is so different, that the outcome may not at all inspire you, or it may not even happen – this may just mean you’re not ready to make a jump to the other side. You may also need a therapist to move you forward.Tony Robbins explains in his book that you must take massive action to get change. Most of us don’t take massive action. We think we do. The example he always gives is that people come to him and say “I have tried everything.” To which he will answer – “oh really, what have you tried, name them.” They then name 1 or 2 things. “Ok, so you have tried the same thing over and over again and expected the same results. This is actually the definition of insanity. So – there you have it- this took me a really long time to implement – but I did take massive action by quitting my job. I’d love to say it was rainbows and butterflies and the clients came knocking down my door- nuh nuh nuh, not so fast, this is not what happened. I won’t even say “unfortunately” this is not what happened, because I learned so much about myself through the next process and journey of my life. As I just heard in a parenting class by Sima Spetner, “If we handle our children’s fights properly, we actually teach them proper social skills and the process in it of itself if therapeutic.” Everything in life is a learning experience.
Book Yourself Solid by Michael Port
Sick Enough by Jennifer L Gaudiani
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
This book opened my eyes to how there is really no such thing as a bad or wrong decision. We are all trying to do our best with the information we get. Life has so much to offer if we allow it. One example that stuck out to me (and I therefore wrote it on my wall in my bedroom) is to understand how paralyzing decision making can be. When we are stuck in the fear, whether we choose choice A or B, we are disappointed. We aganozie over the decision, and when we do decide, we wonder what would have happened had we chosen the other choice. Now, I want you to imagine that either decision you made was correct because life is full of wonderful things that can come our way if we allow it. Either way, what did you learn – about the world, about yourself, about others? Think about it this way, if you did something and you realized you don’t like that thing as a job,or a hobby, or whatever, you now know you don’t enjoy that thing. Isn’t that valuable information. Failure = data.
You are a Badaxx at Making Money by Jen Sincero
The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gorrlieb
G-d gives us this roadmap through our emotions. Our emotions should lead to motion. No one wants to feel painful emotions, so we stifle them with addiction, food, money, other people’s approval until the intuition has been buried deep beneath the ground. Through self help and awareness, you can use these painful emotions for incredible guidance and growth.
The Choice by Edith Eda Eger
Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon, PhD
Gila Glassberg is a Master's level registered dietitian and a certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. Asa teenager, she was faced with constant ha talk, body shaming and obsessive guilt around food, she smuggled with disordered eating.This is what propelled her into the field of nutrition. She uses a on-diet, weight-neutral approach called Intuitive Eating. She helps growth oriented women break out of chronic dieting, and regain clarity into what is really important to them.
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